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teşekkür ederim

Sunday, September 18th, 2011

 

 

 

An all too brief stay in Turkey in September 2011. What an absolutely wonderful place. Caroline and I, and Tilly (her daughter) and her friend Oly stayed in Calis, near Fethiye in the Mugla province. The weather was amazing, the coast and countryside were fantastic, the 3000+ years of  history visible in ruins everywhere was truly awe inspiring, and the geographical features, such as the Saklikent Gorge, spectacular. 

 

However what made it such a beautiful place for us were the people. The Turkish people are the most friendly, most caring, most interested and interesting people I have ever had the joy of encountering.

 

So, I just want to say, ‘teşekkür ederim’. Thank you to the people of Turkey.  May you always be blessed, may you always share in my dharma.

 

x bhavatu sabbe mangalum x

 

 

curry chips

Tuesday, September 13th, 2011

 

 

 

 

Before I launch into this, here’s some rational justification, if any’s needed. I’m a sociologist; a qualified, certified sociologist. I’ve got the paperwork, and I’ve lived the role long enough to be able to identify, if I wish, as a sociologist. Anyway, I’m getting sidetracked.

 

I’ve been observing my environment quite closely for the last 3 1/2 years, and for some, as yet unknown reason, now is the time to make some of my observations more widely known. Ten in fact. A bit below I rave on about 10 things that I have discovered about the Brits. 

 

And while I may be a sociologist, I am also a lot of other things, too many to list. So these 10 observations are mine, and mine alone.  Much of the essence of them comes from comparing my life for the last 3 1/2 years with that which preceded it. In that comparison, and in the 10 thoughts that follow, two terms emerge that I firstly want to explain.

 

Brit: For me this refers to an ethnicity. For me a Brit is not defined through their national identity. ‘Britain’ as a nation has been replaced with ‘the UK’. The red and white of the national flag are the colours of ‘England’. Nationally then people with a passport are English. Being a ‘Brit’ is about your culture, the things you feel, intuite, know and do almost without thinking.

 

Pakeha:  Another ethnic term that refers to a specific cultural group. A Pakeha is a person who embodies and displays the Pakeha culture: the language, the terminology and symbols, the dress and attitude.

 

Enough of all that, here we go.

 

  1. Brits are grounded. History surrounds you, literally. It is there, everywhere. You walk in the footsteps of you ancestors.
  2. Brits have a fierceness about them. I recently watched the movie ‘The Eagle’, and as accurate or inaccurate it may have been, the images I most recall are those of the clans behind Hadrian’s Wall. Their faces tattooed like those of a Maori tribal warrior.
  3. Maybe because of this, Brits do not respect the middle classes. Many Brits I think still do not wish to be identified as middle class. For this reason many of the images that dominate are those of the working class. Brits, as a group, seem to valourise this class.
  4. Yet you have also this ridiculous fascination with … I’m not sure what to call them … rich people? They are difficult, perhaps impossible to define in class terms, they seem to be connected as a group, simply be the amount of money they ‘earn’. Although it is beyond my comprehension how anyone, and I mean anyone, can actually earn over a million pound a year. So it is an eclectic group that includes bankers, footballers, business leaders, TV personalities and others.
  5. Any many of these people have become the gods of the Brits. Wayne Rooney, Jonathan Ross, Katie Price… Yet these are fallen gods, or so it is often reported. Their dark sides are often revealed to, and revelled in, by their worshippers. Where is the voice of the good? These rich gods do not speak as one. They do not preach or provide guidance. Wisdom is at best a whisper.
  6. Often those that do speak, and act as guides, lead their followers into a world of competition. A world of combat.
  7. Food. I love British food. Sausages, mash and onions. Yorkshire pudding. Jacket potatoes. Gravy. And you take it so seriously.
  8. Curry chips. What better symbol of the generousity, the open-heartedness of the Brits that curry chips. This is, no question, a uniquely British delicacy, and yet in its creation and design, it combines and integrates equally, the flavours of British and Indian cultures. Brits take people to heart. They have a capacity to embrace, accept, and show respect for, those who wish to learn their values, their ways, mores, language and behaviours.
  9. So how do you know if you’re a Brit? I don’t know but I think one of the questions that should be on the identity form is this:

If you were given sufficient money to design and build your own home would you make if from brick, wood, straw or clay?

 

I think that most Brits would choose brick. Me, I’d choose wood every time, I’m a Pakeha and we tend to design, build and live in wood. Wood, for us, is good. I have not yet embodied, as many Brits seem to have, the sense that brick is best. I am reminded though of the three pigs, and that leads me to my last observation.

 

10.  Brits are not great risk-takers. They admire this trait in others, but view it with suspicion when it appears within their own ranks. Perhaps this has something to do with my first observation. Brits are surrounded by, they grow up amongst, their past. They admire those they can identify with who have somehow escaped from the cloisters of the past. Australians. It’s a love-hate relationship.

 

x bhavatu sabbe mangalum x

stop

Tuesday, August 30th, 2011

 

 

 

This morning, for no apparent, reason, the train stopped, and I stopped with it. It stopped, I stopped, and we sat in a silence I could hear. It came to me that I have not really stopped for a long time.  How long I’d been riding that train I’m not sure, and I guess it doesn’t really matter. Not now, not now that I have this stillness. And in the quiet, I sense the wonder, the wondering of where I’ve been, and why I chose to go there.

 

Answers evade me.  As I chase them around and around inside my head I only become more frantic, more distracted, more distant  from the recently uncovered, rediscovered silence that lies beneath. Still no longer, the lion awakes, stirs, unfolds itself and moves so graciously towards it’s cage.  The beast does not rally against its ensnarment for it feasts on reason. In the flick of its tail, I know, I believe that in knowing the ‘whys and wherefores’, I may be less likely to return to that abyss.

 

I do not, I tell myself, superficially at least, feel disappointed or disturbed about the place I have been. I have been in the service of others it seems to me.  Giving of myself – or is this just an attempt to make it all seem all right?  I have not been unhappy in my exile. It has, it seems to me, to have been an absence full of purpose.

 

Perhaps what disturbs me, and urges me to investigate, is the notion of the separation between then/there and now/here, the difference between going somewhere and going nowhere.  In my desire to integrate the two, I sit on this stationary train, and it feels ok.  I exist in a moment that is both silent and ghostly still, and simultaneously full of purpose and intention. 

 

Talking, thinking, writing about this place is good. Calmly abiding in this moment is all that is required.

 

x bhavatu sabbe mangalum x

 

 

the plot

Monday, August 15th, 2011

 

 

Some of the time that I’ve been away has been well spent at ‘the plot’ – a piece of land allotted by Merton Council to Caroline some 15 months ago (while I was away in NZ for 3 months). The plot (20A) lies in amongst a lot of other plots of communal land, collectively known as the Phipps Bridge allotment. Very British, as you’ll know if you’ve happened to see  ’Another Year’. Well that’s Caroline and I – off to the plot at least once a week, easily spending up to four or five hours pottering away -  planting, weeding, landscaping, harvesting, weeding, building, tipping, trimming, weeding … an endless wonderfully meditative cycle.

 

I’ve loved it. I’ve loved watching it grow, become, change. I loved getting my hands dirty: eating fresh beans, potatoes, beetroot, onions, courgettes, strawberries, blackberries, blueberries and raspberries; building fences and clearing land. I never would have known that I would have loved this gardening lark so much.

 

Once again, my lady gardener has planted a seed within me, has nurtured and nourished it, and I have experienced the benefit, the blooming beauty and the wonder of being something other than that which I thought I could be. Thank you darling Caroline. Thank you for all the joy and the laughter, the times of toil and the times of rest, the sitting and sharing, the planning and the production, the planting and the reaping. I love you. I love us. I love who I am with you.

 

x bhavatu sabbe mangalum x

 

 

my thoughts are with you

Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011

 

To all in Christchurch, my thoughts are with you.

It is just so painful to hear and see such devastation

from so far away.  Kia kaha, kia toa, kia manawanui.

 

May you all share in my dharma. May you all come to let go of that which you have lived through. May God be with you.

 

x bhavatu sabbe mangalum x